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New Creating Moments of Joy Book – 5th Edition

Creating Moments of Joy Along the Alzheimers Journey:
A Guide for Families and Caregivers
Fifth Edition Revised and Expanded

Now twice as many heartwarming, inspirational solutions for anyone who has been touched by the Alzheimer's journey. This book provides loving ways to create moments of joy.

Retail Price: $25.00

$20.00

How To Use This Journal

I have a vision. A Vision that we will soon look beyond the challenges of Alzheimer’s Disease and focus more of our energy on creating moments of joy. When a person has short-term memory loss, his life is made up of moments. We are not able to create a perfectly wonderful day with those who have dementia, but it is absolutely attainable to create perfectly wonderful moments – moments that put smiles on their faces, a twinkle in their eyes, or trigger memories. Five minutes later, they won’t remember what you did or said, but the feeling you left them with will linger.

I have broken down the learning process into five sections. Within those section are smaller steps. At the end of each step is a place where you can journal your thoughts, solutions, and treasures to help you achieve the overall goal of creating many moments of joy for the person with dementia, and for YOU!

Read an excerpt from a chapter titled, “Playing Favorites” by clicking here.

Or read an excerpt from a chapter titled, “You Are Wrong, They Are Right” by clicking here.

reviews for Creating Moments of Joy Book

  1. I’d would like to share with you some of the comments I’ve been receiving from family members after they’ve read your book and watched the dvd’s. The general feedback is that families wish they would have had the info when their loved one was first diagnosed and still living at home or in the community. They would have had a better understanding and would have done things differently.

    One family is particular has been struggling with their father’s condition and he is now living in continuing care. The adult children haven’t been able to get beyond the fact that their father was presenting with odd behaviors, verbally aggressive and he just wasn’t the man they grew up with which has led they to not visit nor provide any emotional support to their mother. Some of the children have not visited for over 2 yrs. Once the mother started to read your book (last month) and the hand out on “Family Moments”, she discussed the info with her children, had them read the info which has led to the daughter to visiting everyday now and the son will be coming to see his dad in a few weeks. The daughter was upset with her dad because he didn’t recognized her as his daughter now that she’s an adult and would take down her picture from the wall in his room but always carried an old wrinkled picture of her (when she was much younger)in his pocket. She understands now, why !! As the mother was describing to me (with tears in her eyes) how her children have changed there thoughts about their father, I had goose bumps on my arms thinking that if we, as Recreation Therapists can help just 1 family understand then it’s been a good day! Thank you for keeping you books and dvd’s so real, making it easy for the average person/family to understand the dementia process and providing practically ways of interacting with the person dealing with alzheimers, at whatever stage they are at. “Hats off to you, Jolene for keeping it REAL!!”

  2. My Mom said to me the other day how fearful she is that someday she won’t remember me. I gave her a hug and said “Don’t worry Mom, you might forget my face but I know you will NEVER forget my LOVE”! I thought you might want to share that with your readers.

    Thank you and God Bless you Jolene. I am in awe of what you are doing for people all over the country who are dealing with this horrifying disease. You and your philosophy is like a breath of fresh air compared to all the dismal reports and nothing but drug recommendations!

    All the best…

  3. Dear Jolene, I am writing this review and have not even purchased your book! I am writing in response to all the other RAVE reviews about your book on this website! My Mom just had hip surgery in Jan. and then emergency hernia surgery 60 days later (caused by constipation brought on by pain pills!). She has now been diagnosed with mild-to-moderate dementia 6 weeks ago but the disease has escalated so quickly in the last 30 days, it is scary. My Mom is now delusional and paranoid, she thinks she has throat cancer and that all the medication is affecting her brain and she doesn’t want to take it! (Most of the meds may well be affecting her brain but how do you know?!).

    After reading the reviews and your bio and the wonderful story about your mission to create better moments for Alzheimers patients, I know that you will a blessing to us!! I look forward to writing again with another review as soon as I get to read the book!

    Thank you in advance and God Bless You Jolene! You sound like a wonderful, loving and caring person and I want to congratulate your success on sharing your kindness.

    Sincerely,
    Shar Fleming

  4. Thanks you so much for all you do. I picked up your book about a month ago. My mother suffers from Dementia, and the journey has been very difficult to stay the least. Your book was the first one that really spoke to the heart and in a very loving straight forward way. And has given me very practical tips that my family can use right now. I can’t thank you enough for this gift that you have given families going through this awful disease.

    Keep up the great , amazing work. And may God to continue to bless you with the wonderful gifts you have.

  5. I cannot begin to tell you how much your book has helped me over the years. When I recommend it (and I do, almost daily), I refer to it as my “Alzheimer’s Bible”. I have read it multiple times and given away several copies. I have recommended it to staff at the facility where my mom is a resident. I think it would be a GREAT mandatory read for EVERY employee of an Alzheimer’s facility and nursing home that exists today. I would also love for hospital employees to read it. It amazes me how the employees have no idea what’s going on with an Alzheimer’s patient. I particularly found it interesting when my mother was taken to the emergency room from her facility and the employee asked her a question and I answered it for her, as I knew they needed the real answer to the question. The nurse looked at me and said in a strong tone, “I need Mrs. Jasper to answer”. My response, was “she has Alzheimer’s”, then I sat quietly through several questions and listened to her totally unrelated answers. At the point when she was asked, “when was your last bowel movement” and my mother gave her the answer, once again totally unrelated to the subject, the nurse looked at me and said, “I think she may need some help with some of these questions”. My thought was, “you think”??????????

    I cannot say enough good things about your book.

    Once again, thank you so much for what you do for the families and friends of Alzheimer’s patients.

  6. A few months ago I offered a CEU course for local activity directors and we showed your memory enhanced activities DVD’s. Today I gave another in-service to the local activity professionals group, and one of the women who attended the CEU event with your DVD was also there today. I hardly made it in the door before she went on and on about your book that she purchased at that first event. She told me that she lends it to staff and family members in her community. She says she has a hard time getting it back because people love it so much. She also said she spoke with a long distance family member and told them about the book and she was going to lend it to them when they got to town, but they had already purchased it before they got there (based on her rave reviews) and loved it. Then she started telling me about all of the ways she is implementing your concepts and making a difference in her community. She is soooooo excited for you to come to town next year! (And so are we!) Joy is contagious!

  7. Words can not express how grateful I am to you for writing this book. It has changed the lifes of 2 very unhappy people, namely myself and my 87 yo mother.

    Mother was the victim of ansethia induce dementia in 2009. Up until that time she was 100%.

    Jolene, I don’t think you realize the profound affect you are having with your book. I belong to an online forum for AD and that is where I learned of your book. The praises you are receiving is why I bought your book. Even more people there are buying your book now because I can’t stop raving about it.

    God Bless you for your words. My life is forver changed because of you. Jan

  8. Hello Jolene,

    Wow, am I touched by your book and the gift you are so blessed with!

    My sister and I have just gone through the devastating experience of taking our mom to her “new home” at the early age of 72, and our process of learning has begun in a whole new way. A neighbour loaned me “Creating Moments of Joy” and I am soaking it up like a hungry, dry sponge. As I read your book I realize we are on the right track with some things but your suggestions are like stars in a dark sky to us, and we need all the light we can get! I’ve shared some highlights with my sister and my aunt (my mom’s
    only sister), and we are all in great need of what you have to share about a “healthier” approach to Alzheimer’s patients.

    May you be blessed beyond measure to know you are making a difference to all those who so desperately need what you allow to flow through YOU. I am indeed inspired!

    Thank-you so very much,
    Shelley Jansen

  9. I just wanted to drop you a note of thanks for the immense help provided by your book. Once I discovered that “little grey book,” I referred to it so often to help me understand, and become more effective caring for, my mother. In reading and re-reading its pages, I derived much comfort from the common sense and wisdom you shared. I tried getting my mother to conform to my will; you taught me to see things from her perspective instead.

    I am currently reading the book, “Still Alice,” written by Lisa Genova. It is painful, indeed, to realize the fear that Alzheimer’s sufferers experience. I’m sure I must have appeared indifferent to my mother until realizing she was undergoing profound changes.

    My mother died a month ago today after many years of living with the disease. I moved home to care for her from 2005 until her recent death. During this time, she continued to contribute to my growth . . . lessons about compassion, perseverance, and patience were her gifts to me. On this Mother’s Day that she is physically no longer with me, I carry the memory of her brave spirit inside me.

  10. Dear Jolene,
    I just wanted to let you know how valuable your book has been to me, and my Mom!! My family made the decision to put her into a care facility the end of May, and I have to confess, I was struggling with it. Just before we made the decision, a gentleman went missing in our area. Sadly he went for a walk and disappeared. His body was found months later. He had dementia. My Mom too has bouts of it, but when I visit, she lights up. For Christmas I made her a photo and text book of our family at blurb.com. I labeled it with all our names but from her view point. E.g. This is me, this is my daughter Kathy, my son Fred..that sort of thing. She loves it, and yes, every day is a new day when we look at it.
    I keep your book on my bedside table and keep re-reading it as a reminder of how to be with my Mom. I also make sure when I speak to all the other residents I don’t ask how they are, but rather compliment them on their hair, or whatever.
    Jolene, you are a kind wise woman, thank you so much for sharing what you have learned.
    take good care,
    best wishes for the New Year.

  11. Ms. Brackey, I am a current homecare companion/caregiver and was loaned your book to read on my down-time by the daughter of the woman I am with. I have never written to an author before but wanted to take a moment to say thank you! Your book was so well written and touched my heart, not only because of my current client, but all the past ones as well as my own grandmother. I only wish I had read it sooner to get all the tidbits and ideas before now. I will definitely look for you to come speak in my area.

    Thank you!
    Adrienne Tomaszewski

  12. As a caregiver to my mother who has Alzheimer’s Disease, I would just like to thank you for your book Creating Moments of Joy. It is like a cook book for me! Each time I go to the nursing home to visit mom, I read a little tip from your book. I am becoming much better at my visits! I have my masters degree in nursing and am a geriatric/adult nurse practitioner, yet I have learned more from your book than I have from my formal education.

    I have always subscribed to the theory that each moment matters; even if my mother forgets that moment in a second. Your validation of this thought has given purpose and value to every bit of care I can muster for mom.

    Sincerely,
    Cathy Johnson
    Boston, MA

  13. My brother and I now each have our own copies of Creating Moments of Joy. It is EXACTLY the resource we had been looking for since our 91 year old mother began showing symptoms of dementia 6 years ago. So many “help” books are strictly clinical and chockfull of straight forward facts. Yours was like a stadium of lights shining down on us!

    I can’t begin to describe the relief my father felt (he actually broke down in tears) when I was able to explain to him that when Mom doesn’t recognize him but keeps asking for him by name, she is looking for her “young” husband. He has found great comfort in starting to better understand her condition. We all experienced many WOW moments in reading that many things Mom does and experiences are common to dementia, and we (on the other hand) needed to learn how to think differently in order to manage her life in a way we know she would prefer.

    We have implemented many of your suggestions and Mom really is a happier person.

    From the bottom of our hearts, thank you.

    Jeanie Ward

  14. As soon, as I read your book, I wished I could clone you for everyone I have run across the past three years in my journey with my husband who has Alzheimer’s. So many of them need to hear the information—and you present it in such a non-threatening , positive manner.

  15. Your book is so….so…awe inspiring that I cannot describe the emotions it arose it me. I am a caregiver in a dementia community and I cried tears of wonder and joy when I finished the book. I will use the advice in your book not just a tool in my work , but also in my life. I must have cried for an hour, and strangely enough I had a smile on my face the whole time. I hope it fills your heart to know you have such a positive impact on people.

  16. I just finished your book! I could not put it down.

    My husband has Parkinson’s with Lewy Body dementia. This book affirmed many of the things I do, but it also gave me so many ideas on other situations I’ve been trying to figure.

    I feel that all Alz/dementia support groups should have this book available. I plan to get one for our church library and myself.

    Thank you for your wonderful insight into this world of dementia. The book is written so simply and it does not overwhelm.

    Judy

  17. Just want you to know your book has been so helpful to me in the work I do at Edgewood Village and Vista. I love to Create Moments of Joy and I have told so many families and professionals about your book. Many have read it and then got back to me on how helpful it was to them, very impactful!

    Serena

  18. During each monthly meeting, I read an inspirational passage from your book, creating moments of joy as an introduction or opening of our gathering. Good comments and feedback from caregivers and it seems to settle everyone in to meet.

    Darla S.
    East Kootenay Senior Caregiver’s Network
    Columbia Valley

  19. I just got through reading your book on my Kindle. Just wanted you to know that I will use a lot of the suggestions that I had never thought about! I am a caregiver for my 85 year old husband and it has already helped immensely.

    Thanks from the bottom of my heart……Shirley

  20. Jolene,

    I was given your book by one of my family members and was amazed by the down-to-earth and common sense approach to the many issues we face in a day with those who have Alzheimer’s. This book is such an easy read that I feel it would be appropriate for every staff person in our community from dietary and housekeeping to the management team and nurses.

    Thanks so much!

    Felieta Boaz
    Administrator

  21. Jolene,

    A special thanks for writing such a wonderful practical book for caregivers and people dealing with memory loss. I reference it often.

    Sue

  22. Hi Jolene,

    I just wanted to let you know that I loved reading your book and I referenced it in my new blog, http://www.alzheimerspirit.com. I too, am passionate about Alzheimer’s disease and worked in the field for many years. I really wanted to bring another perspective, namely the spiritual gifts of alzheimer’ and dementia.
    Thank you for the wonderful work that you do!!

    Bev Janisch
    Calgary, Alberta

  23. Hi Jolene,

    In January of this year I was hired as a Dementia Care Specialist. I have read many wonderful things but the most real and helpful “practical” thing is your book, Creating Moments of Joy that I picked up at the Alzheimer’s Conference.

    Your book gives hands on tools for the reality of what those caring for persons with dementia really need. All the other stuff is good; but it’s heady and doesn’t seem to translate into relevant tools.

    Thank you! I plan to design this program around your concepts and tools, you do it with heart and I want to build a program with heart!

    Thanks again,

    Sue Konkel
    Dementia Care Specialist
    Jefferson County ADRC

  24. Dear Jolene,

    I have been thoroughly enjoying your very special book on caring for your loved ones with dementia. After a season of our family coming to the official diagnosis of my father-in-law, we received your book. It truly gives hope in the midst of the sadness that we all feel. I love the way you share with us how this season of life can be dignifying and beautiful. It is so very touching.

    Thank you for your heart and enthusiasm.

    Sincerely,

    Tami

  25. Dear Jolene,

    Thank you for writing such a beautiful and informative book. My Dad has alzheimers and your book has helped me. The one phrase in your book has really touched me and I plan on passing it onto the caregivers at his assisted living home.

    People might forget what you said,people will forget what you did,but they will never forget how you made them feel.

    Thank you so very much.

    Roseann

  26. Jolene,

    You did a seminar at a place i worked about 10 years ago. I bought your book(creating moments of joy) . Istill have the book and read it time to time. After hearing you speak and after reading the book I tried different ways ofcommunicating with my residents I cared for. Soon after I worked in the Alzeimers and dementia unit and I loved it. I am physically no longer able to work in nursing and when i read your book it brings me joy because i think of my residents and all the fun i had with them. It was never just a paycheck, I enjoyed going to work and loved being with my residents they were like my family.Thank you so much for teaching me new ways and making my time with my residents a memorable and joyous time.

  27. Hi!
    I’ve actually wanted to write you for something like four years now. I heard you speak in Beatrice, Nebr. at the Kensington assisted living home shortly after my mom got moved there. I just happened to be in town to clean out her house and was lucky enough to catch your presentation. OMG! You are utterly amazing, such a great speaker and very fun to listen to, and everything I learned was SO helpful when it came to interacting with my mom and her dementia!! She passed a little over two years ago but even when her memory span got down to just a minute or two, I was still able to make her all happy and content just by talking!! At times she got riled up over something in her imagination I was very easily able to make her feel safe and that all was well and her anger would be reversed in a matter of just a few kind words to put her mind at ease. Amazing…..absolutely amazing!!

    I have recommended your book to many people since hearing you talk, and truth be told, I have misplaced my copy and would like to read it again, just because it is so well written and I still find myself offering little bits of advice to people when I least expect it!! Helps me explain things better. I’ve always had a lot of compassion for those with alzheimers and dementia but never understood much about it. Just always had the patience and somewhat of a natural knack for interacting with them. I have always found that when I made one of these patients happy, I myself was over-the-top happy as a result!

    A very dear friend just told me this morning that her mother in law had to move in with she and her husband recently, and the mom in law has dementia. I told her about you and your book and my question for you today is if you have a calendar of appearances for the upcoming year, and also if you will be making any appearances in Colorado by any chance? I’d sure love for this friend and/or her husband to hear you speak and recommended that they get your book ASAP!! If you were anywhere in the area, I’d go with them just to have the chance to give you a great big hug and thank you in person for all of the insight you provided for me!

    Keep doing what you do, you are an amazing woman!

    Shasta Michaels
    Denver, Colorado

    p.s. Have you ever considered making a video of your presentations??